a two-headed monster

​When God first ordains marriage he talks about the need for a man to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. This involves severance as well as permanence. There's a leaving and there's a cleaving. God's plan for marriage from the very beginning was one man with one woman for one lifetime.  I know that culture has changed that. Over 50% of marriages today end in divorce. But the truth is that though culture has changed that plan, God has not changed His plan. Jesus quoted the same words in Matthew 19 as did Paul in Ephesians 5. If your marriage is struggling, don't give up on your marriage.  Along with severance and permanence there is also a unity involved.  Scripture says, “And they shall become one flesh.” What does it mean the two become one flesh?  The only analogy I can come up with is that the moment you say "I do" you become a two-headed monster. You see, marriage is not dependence or independence. It is interdependence.  In other words, it's no longer how do I see it?  It's now, how do we see it?  It's no longer what are my dreams?  It's now, what are our dreams? One of the greatest aspects of marriage is that we get to this journey called life together.